First impressions are made in the first 30 seconds and can take a lifetime to change. So make sure that your first impression is a good one! This is true if you are going into an interview, remedy a sparring match, or whatever you are trying to “win” at the moment.
Before entering an interview you need to stop and take a deep breath and step into the triad that not only says that you can “win” this but that you have already “won”.
A triad is a pattern or a role that you step into. It includes the 3 forces that shape all human emotions and behaviors.
- Your Physiology
- Your Language
- Your Focus & Beliefs
Let’s put together an Interview Triad that will set you up to “win” the next interview!
First, ailment look at the physiology of someone who is already in the role you are interviewing for.
Ask yourself what kind of physiology will empower you?
Close your eyes and picture how you would feel if already were given that job.
Body structure? (How do you stand? Energy level? Where are your shoulders?)
How would you breathe? (Shallow or deep?)
Facial expressions? (Are you smiling? Do your eyes shine with excitement?)
How would you dress? (A dark business suit? White shirt? Jewelry?)
Your mind? (Is it quick, recipe fast, insightful? – asking questions, making comments, selling your skills, talents, expertise?)
How would you feel? (Certain, successful, confidant, excited?)
Secondly, examine your language: the questions, metaphors and incantations you are asking. Ask yourself, “What kind of words, phrases, or metaphors will empower you?”
Close your eyes and hear what you would be saying if you were already in that job.
- I am great at this job!
- I am successful.
- I have so much to offer to this company, in this role.
- I am energized.
- I am so excited to be working with my peers, and for my boss.
- I am on unstoppable.
Thirdly, look at what you focus & believe. These are your values, your rules, and your global beliefs that have become your identity. I strongly suggest that you grab a pen and write down all the reasons why you don’t feel you should get this job. Until you get real with what you focus on, and believe, you will always be held prisoner by your own thoughts. After you have completed that, ask yourself the empowering question, “What do you need to focus on, or believe, in order to “win” the interview?”
- I deserve to move up into this type of role.
- I have all the qualifications that they are looking for.
- I am a hard worker and a quick learner.
- I can do anything that I put my mind to.
- I am a great fit for this team.
- I bring a lot to the table.
Triads are very powerful. By practicing and learning how to ask empowering questions, and putting together empowering patterns in your physiology, your language, and your focus & beliefs can change your life! Congratulations on your new job!